Loving Someone to Hell

In today’s society the phrases “Do You”, “Be true to you” or “Do what makes you happy” are very common and are often use to encourage or to validate that someone’s behavior is okay. We in today’s time have come to point where we believe that we are entitled to do whatever we want. In addition, there are people especially Christians who believe the same.



There are certain things (sin) that we as people may want to engage in that may make us feel good but will be detrimental for our salvation. Romans 6:23 warns us “For the wages of sin is death; but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord”. When we as Christians, fail to tell the truth and be honest we others, then we are in fact loving them to hell while they are in the midst of their sins.


Now every individual will have to stand before the Lord and answer for their own actions. However, when we know that our friends and or love ones are doing something to cause death then we should try helping them out. Our love for that individual should trump their personal desires when it comes to telling the truth regardless of their final decision. Henry Ward Beecher says “It is one of the severest tests of friendship to tell your friend his faults. So to love a man that you cannot bear to see a stain upon him, and to speak painful truth through loving words, that is friendship.”


Our love for people should lead us to give them good and Godly advice and not worldly advice. If the advice “Do You”, “Be true to you” or “Do what makes you happy” was really good and true then it would be okay for robbers to rob, or molesters to molest, murderers to murder etc. because these individuals are doing what their hearts desire.


I’m so glad to have had parents and others who never upheld me in my sin but in fact spoke against it. I am raising my children the same way. I will not let any past sins or possible future sins keep me from telling the truth concerning God’s word. I am choosing not to love anyone to hell but in fact to give hope in a God who is able to take away sinful desires and or acts. Psalm 79:9 teaches us to pray for our sins “Help us, O God of our salvation, for the glory of thy name: and deliver us, and purge away our sins, for thy name’s sake”.


Shailer Matthews believes that “Love that seeks to do men good is cowardice when it refuses to prevent them from doing wrong”. It is my prayer that we will not allow our love for family and friends to encourage and or validate them in sin but rather our love will encourage them in the Lord.


Benita