Mirror, Mirror on the Wall - Am I giving my life my all? Part V

All the Single Ladies Living single today can be a difficult task. Maybe it wouldn’t be so hard if everyone stopped asking the dreaded question “When are you getting married?” Maybe you wouldn’t think about it as much if others wouldn’t remind you of the “single” status often. I would like to encourage all the single ladies to stay strong and enjoy your season of being single. I can remember being single and wanting to be married but there are many things I did when I was single that by choice I can’t do now because I’m choosing to invest my time into my family. When you’re single you have the liberty to do whatever you choose whenever. But once you’re married every decision you make will have to take into consideration all that make up your immediate family. So cling to Philippians 4:11 which say “I have learned, in whatsoever state I am, therewith to be content.” During your season of singleness, don’t forget to pray for a husband, not just anyone but be specific about a God-fearing man someone who will be good to you and your children and will lead your family as God desires. Set expectations for dating, what is it that you are looking for in a man? Don’t waste your time trying to change someone because you can’t. Don’t always look into someone else life and wish for it because there are ups and downs to both being single and being married. Georg Lichtenberg advises “Never undertake anything for which you wouldn’t have the courage to ask the blessings of Heaven. God will not bless fornication, adultery or any other sin that we may commit whether single or married. Women often times feel the need to give in to many things that they are uncomfortable with just to keep or get that man. I know because I have gone down that road and if I could do it all over again I would do it differently (God’s way). Now, I see things so clearly and I have a desire to share with others about God’s wonderful blessings. They are awesome only if we would be patient and wait. I will be the first to admit that being single is hard because of all the temptations but God has requested that we live a holy and righteous life unto him. If you think all that you are doing now outside of God’s will is good then just wait until He blesses it. It will be AWESOME! This past weekend Ken & I took the girls to see the movie UP. In this movie two childhood friends marry and the wife every since they were children had a scrapbook about an adventure that she would take to South America. After marriage they saved money but something would always come up and they would have to spend it. They tried to have a baby but they lost the child and she never had another. Then she passed. At this time her husband felt bad because he never helped her realize her childhood dream even though he promised. So he set out on this journey to realize the dream that his wife had. During the adventure when he made it to the place that she had wanted to be all her life, he sat down and open her scrapbook and started flipping through the pages once he got to the page that said South America adventure he flipped through and he saw all these pages that she had filled in during their marriage and the happy times that they had shared. She ended this scrapbook with “Thanks for the journey; it was amazing an adventure I Love You”. The moral of the story is sometimes we have what we are searching for right in grasp. He was so focused on what he was not able to give his wife that he didn’t see all the great things that he did give her. As single ladies, we have our own idea of Mr. Right but your Mr. Right maybe Mr. Wrong. Don’t miss out on a wonderful man searching for your idea of Mr. Right; he just maybe in your life already and your too blind to see for looking. Petition God for your soul mate and make sure that you are ready to receive him when he comes. Many blessings to you and I pray for your current state of singleness and what the future holds for you. Love, Benita